We also need to learn the art of letting go: of the past, of unresolved grievances, of our younger selves. Nobody gets out of here alive.

Past behavior is the most reliable predictor of future behavior.

If the map doesn't agree with the ground, the map is wrong.

There are no maps to guide our most important searches; we must rely on hope, chance, intuition, and a willingness to be surprised.

Only bad things happen quickly, . . . Virtually all the happiness-produ cing processes in our lives take time, usually a long time: learning new things, changing old behaviors, building satisfying relationships, raising children. This is why patience and determination are among life's primary virtues.

Life's two most important questions are Why? and Why not? The trick is knowing which one to ask.

Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses.