Grief is not productive. It simply represents an inefficiency in accepting change of status.
Greg BearTo translate kinesics or paralinguistic messages into words is likely to introduce gross falsification due not merely to the human propensity for trying to falsify statements about "feelings" and relationship and to the distortions which arise whenever the products of one system of coding are dissected onto the premises of another, but especially to the fact that all such translation must give to the more or less unconscious and involuntary message the appearance of conscious intent.
Greg BearWhen all hopes are lost, only then does reality acquire that sharp focus that defines who we are and what we have become.
Greg Bear