If I pretend to myself that I'm different from the way I truly am, I'm going to make choices that won't make me happy.

I have a lucky perfume. I love beautiful smells, but I save one of my favorite perfumes to wear only when I feel like I need some extra luck.

A 'treat' is different from a 'reward', which must be justified or earned. A treat is a small pleasure or indulgence that we give to ourselves just because we want it. Treats give us greater vitality, which boosts self-control, which helps us maintain our healthy habits.

One of the most important lessons of childhood is discovering what you like to do.

Outer order contributes to inner calm.

When we don't get any treats, we feel depleted, resentful, and angry, and we feel justified in self-indulgence. We start to crave comfort - and grab that comfort wherever we can, even if it means breaking good habits.

One of my Secrets of Adulthood is: Most decisions don't require extensive research.