There is no wrong way to have a body.

The models we have, and the standards we are expected to maintain, come to us via heterosexuality as a normative state. Heterosexuality--whatever the current version of that concept happens to be--is unremarkable because it is the standard by which everything else is measured. That is heterosexual privilege.

Real women are fat. And thin. And neither. And both. And otherwise.

Sex acts don't drive erotica, the people who engage in them do.

There is no wrong way to have a body.

We don't just want what we want because we want it; we want what we want because that's what we've learned to want.

And last, we must bear in mind that the relationships between perception, thought, emotion, and behavior are neither automatic nor consistent. In many cases they are demonstrably affected or directed by culture and socialization. We don't just want what we want because we want it; we want what we want because that's what we've learned to want.