It has always been difficult for Man to realize that his life is all an art. It has been more difficult to conceive it so than to act it so. For that is always how he has more or less acted it.
Havelock EllisIn philosophy, it is not the attainment of the goal that matters, it is the things that are met with by the way
Havelock EllisThe second great channel through which the impulse towards the control of procreation for the elevation of the race is entering into practical life is by the general adoption, by the educatedโof methods for the prevention of conception except when conception is deliberately desired.
Havelock EllisThere can be no sexual love without lust; but, on the other hand, until the currents of lust in the organism have been irradiatedas to affect other parts of the psychic organism--at the least the affections and the social feelings--it is not yet sexual love. Lust, the specific sexual impulse, is indeed the primary and essential element in this synthesis, for it alone is adequate to the end of reproduction, not only in animals but in men. But it is not until lust is expanded and irradiated that it develops into the exquisite and enthralling flower of love.
Havelock Ellis