In Sufi terms the crushing of the ego is called Nafs Kushi. And how do we crush it? We crush it by sometimes taking ourselves to task. When the self says, 'O no, I must not be treated like this,' then we say, 'What does it matter?' When the self says, 'He ought to have done this, she ought to have said that,' we say, 'What does it matter, either this way or that way? Every person is what he is; you cannot change him, but you can change yourself.' That is the crushing. ... It is only in this way that we can crush our ego.
Hazrat Inayat KhanJoy and sorrow are the light and shade of life; without light and shade no picture is clear.
Hazrat Inayat KhanThe soul of all is one soul and the truth is one truth, under whatever religion it is hidden.
Hazrat Inayat KhanThe wise man should keep the balance between love and power; he should keep the love in his nature ever increasing and expanding, and at the same time strengthen the will so that the heart may not easily be broken.
Hazrat Inayat Khan