Much violence is based on the illusion that life is a property to be defended and not to be shared.
Henri NouwenReal grief is not healed by time... if time does anything, it deepens our grief. The longer we live, the more fully we become aware of who she was for us, and the more intimately we experience what her love meant for us. Real, deep love is, as you know, very unobtrusive, seemingly easy and obvious, and so present that we take it for granted. Therefore, it is only in retrospect - or better, in memory - that we fully realize its power and depth. Yes, indeed, love often makes itself visible in pain.
Henri NouwenThe crisis of our prayer life is that our minds may be filled with ideas of God while our hearts remain far from him.
Henri Nouwen