You don't have to live the blues to play the blues.
My youngest son, who is now the drummer in my band, lives in Brooklyn. My oldest son is about to move out to California, and my daughters are both out of town.
Being stubborn has helped, being selfish is not a bad thing.
If you want to play somebody's music, you'd better go into his house.
Being selfish to me means that you have to look out for yourself and you don't have to sacrifice.
You have to be concerned with yourself because if you're not on it all the time, nobody else is going to be.