If your reaction to your partner's fear-or any other form of distress- is disdain or irritation, you do not want oneness or even friendship with your partner at that moment.

There are only three things you need to let go of judging, controlling, and being right. Release these three and you will have the whole mind and twinkly heart of a child.

A messy mortal is my friend. Come walk with me in the mud.

I sometimes react to making a mistake as if I have betrayed myself. My fear of making a mistake seems to be based on the hidden assumption that I am potentially perfect and that if I can just be very careful I will not fall from heaven. But a 'mistake' is a declaration of the way I am, a jolt to the way I intend, a reminder I am not dealing with the facts. When I have listened to my mistakes I have grown.

Most words evolved as a description of the outside world, hence their inadequacy to describe what is going on inside me.

I can't be found in myself; I discover myself in others. That much is clear. And I suspect that I also love and care for myself in others.

Negative feedback is better that none. I would rather have a man hate me than overlook me. As long as he hates me I make a difference.