When does one ever know a human being? Perhaps only after one has realized the impossibility of knowledge and renounced the desire for it and finally ceased to feel even the need of it. But then what one achieves is no longer knowledge, it is simply a kind of co-existence; and this too is one of the guises of love.
Iris MurdochA long marriage is very unifying, even if it's not ideal, and those old structures must be respected.
Iris MurdochEducation doesnโt make you happy. Nor does freedom. We donโt become happy just because weโre free โ if we are. Or because weโve been educated โ if we have. But because education may be the means by which we realize we are happy. It opens our eyes, our ears, tells us where delights are lurking, convinces us that there is only one freedom of any importance whatsoever, that of the mind, and gives us the assurance โ the confidence โ to walk the path our mind, our educated mind, offers.
Iris Murdoch