Mature love is loving, not being loved.

Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.

...the more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety. The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.

He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)

If I'm among men who don't agree at all with my nature, I will hardly be able to accommodate myself to them without greatly changing myself. A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively. Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it's absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.

The path to decision may be hard because it leads into the territory of both finiteness and groundlessness—domains soaked in anxiety.

To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.