...the more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety. The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.

Life as a therapist is a life of service in which we daily transcend our personal wishes and turn our gaze toward the needs and growth of the other. We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.

The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.

Despair is the price one pays for self-awareness. Look deeply into life, and you'll always find despair.

Never take away anything if you have nothing better to offer

What? 'Borderline patients play games'? That what you said? Ernest, you'll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That's exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis. There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can't treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)

The creative members of an orthodoxy, any orthodoxy, ultimately outgrow their disciplines.