One of the things that always comes up in my writing is the search for freedom, especially in women. I always write about women who are marginalized, who have no means or resources and somehow manage to get out of those situations with incredible strength - and that is more important than anything.

Writing is a constant exercise in longing.

I'm such a control freak. I want to control even my own death. Decide when I will die and how.

Words are not that important when you recognize intentions.

If, for example, I saw my grandparents or my daughter for an instant, would I recognize them? Probably not, because in looking so hard for a way to keep them alive, remembering them in the most minimal details, I have been changing them, adorning them with qualities they may not have had. I have given them a destiny much more complex than the ones they lived.

A man does what he can; a woman does what a man cannot.

I think I was a feminist before the word was invented.