Crying purifies and cleanses. I once read about a scientific experiment which demonstrated that there are 38 toxic chemicals in a tear of sadness, while only one toxin exists in a tear of joy. As you cry in sadness, fear, or confusion, you cleanse the body and spirit of toxins which cloud the mind and prevent it from accepting the truth.
Iyanla VanzantSome children do what theyโre told to do; some children do what theyโre told not to do; all children do what theyโre parents have done.
Iyanla VanzantYou set the standards for how you will be treated. People will treat you the exact way you treat yourself. So be good to you. Take time for yourself. Rest. Play. Shower yourself with affection, support, and gifts.
Iyanla VanzantI'm focusing on healing lives and teaching people that they can heal - giving them tools to heal.
Iyanla VanzantYou are never angry for the reason you think you are. There's an older hurt under that.
Iyanla VanzantNever underestimate the ruthlessness of the ego to keep you in a state of suffering in which you voluntarily participate.
Iyanla VanzantWe live in a society where we're not taught how to deal with our weaknesses and frailties as human beings. We're not taught how to speak to our difficulties and challenges. We're taught the Pythagorean theorem and chemistry and biology and history. We're not taught anger management. We're not taught dissolution of fear and how to process shame and guilt. I've never in my life ever used the Pythagorean theorem!
Iyanla Vanzant