Acknowledgemen t of what you feel, what you know, what you need is the first step toward healing.
Iyanla VanzantI don't think anybody can be held accountable or responsible for anyone's behaviors expect the individual. This goes beyond that particular situation.
Iyanla VanzantAt your worst point, the quickest way to move through it is to be a contribution as opposed to focusing on your problems. If you focus on your problems and keep giving them attention, they're going to grow. If you ignore them and do something else - I don't mean act like they're not here - but do something meaningful, it helps you work through it.
Iyanla VanzantWe live in a society where we're not taught how to deal with our weaknesses and frailties as human beings. We're not taught how to speak to our difficulties and challenges. We're taught the Pythagorean theorem and chemistry and biology and history. We're not taught anger management. We're not taught dissolution of fear and how to process shame and guilt. I've never in my life ever used the Pythagorean theorem!
Iyanla Vanzant