Life has a truth to it, and it's complicated - it's love and it's hatred.

A psychiatrist once asked me to draw a picture of my family. This is when I was a member of a family of four. I drew the three other people in the family first, bodies and heads. And then, last, I began to draw myself - but gave up.

Someone who knew me well once accused me of being unromantic. And that's probably true: I don't trust romance.

I'm writing out of desperation. I felt compelled to write to make sense of it to myself - so I don't end up saying peculiar things like 'I'm black and I'm proud.' I write so I don't end up as a set of slogans and clichés.

I used to want to be a backup singer. Not a lead singer, because I really can't sing.

The inevitable is no less a shock just because it is inevitable.

I don't feel I'm angry. I feel as though I'm describing something true. If I had stabbed my husband, I could understand being called "angry." If I had an affair with my husband's best friend and written about that experience, I could see the anger. But I'm not doing that.