Holding back our thoughts, feelings and behaviors can place people at risk for minor and major diseases.

Conversations are like dances. Two people effortlessly move in step with one another, usually anticipating the other person's next move. If one of the dancers moves in an unexpected direction, the other typically adapts and builds on the new approach. As with dancing, it is often difficult to tell who is leading and who is following in that the two people are constantly affecting each other. And once the dance begins, it is almost impossible for one person to singly dictate the couple's movement.

As the number of studies increased, it became clear that writing was a far more powerful tool for healing than anyone had ever imagined.

The act of not discussing or confiding the event with another may be more damaging than having experienced the event per se.

One of the most interesting results was part of a study my students and I conducted dealing with status in email correspondence. Basically, we discovered that in any interaction, the person with the higher status uses I-words less (yes, less) than people who are low in status.

The emotional findings, then, suggest that to gain the most benefit from writing about life’s traumas, acknowledge the negative but celebrate the positive.

Human relationships are not rocket science--the are far, far more complicated