I wouldn't underestimate the power of writing a letter.
I suppose you retire from trying. If you retire from trying, you think, "Maybe love will just come my way if I don't want it anymore."
You have to want something or you're finished.
In order to have a real life of any romance, there has to be a level of fantasy.
I don't think you can have an imagination without having fantasy, and you can't have that rich a life without an imagination.
I know perfectly well that you can't not want anything and live.