There's a quote that I learned in college a million years ago. "Happy, thought I, is the man who can, in one and the same embrace, hold both his love and the object of his love." Holding the feeling that you have and all the images that you've got and all the fantasies and romantic associations while also holding the actual core person that's been saddled with all of this.

That was one of the problems with the Narcissus figure. Here is a face looking at a face, and the problem is the image of the thing is never actually the thing. You try and grab it and it's not there. It's water. It disappears.

In order to have a real life of any romance, there has to be a level of fantasy.

I sometimes think that we expect too much resolution in this world.

I grew up flying over oceans and moving and sailing.

I know perfectly well that you can't not want anything and live.

You can sometimes find something good on the other side of doing something very, very painful.