if a woman doubts as to whether she should accept a man or not, she certainly ought to refuse him. If she can hesitate as to `Yes,' she ought to say `No' directly. It is not a state to be safely entered into with doubtful feelings, with half a heart.
Jane AustenYou may only call me "Mrs. Darcy"... when you are completely, and perfectly, and incandescently happy.
Jane Austen