What I learned is, we have to listen to each other, even when we don't agree, even when we think we hate each other. We have to listen to each others narratives. Not interrupt defensively, or with hostility, but really try to open our hearts and listen with empathy. I learned so much from that meeting. It was a very difficult thing to do and it was one of the best things that I ever did in my life. Look what scares you in the face, and try to understand it. Empathy, I have learned, is revolutionary.

I'm not sure that I would have become a Christian if I had continued to live in Hollywood because the notion wouldn't have occurred to me.

I feel like my honesty gives people the freedom to talk about things they wouldn't otherwise.

I wasn't pretty enough to be the pretty girl and I wasn't unattract­ive enough to be the dorky girl.

In my marriages, I'd lost parts of who I was because I was trying to mold myself into what I thought a man wanted me to be.

My mother killed herself when I was 12. I won't complete that relationship. But I can try to understand her.

I like to think both - it's not either/or. It's and.