Your disrespect for me is apparent. You never respected me when I think about it and you never liked me. But Iโm the parent and youโre the child and it is not your job to love me the way I love you. My love for you is unconditional and no matter what you decide in your life I will love you. Doesnโt mean I have to like it, but I will always love you. Love, Dad
Janet MockAnytime that we - and when I say "we," I mean feminine people, trans feminine folk, women - do anything that is centered on our own pleasure or desire, it's seen as frivolous. But learning how to love your own body and finding pleasure in something that has brought you pain [in the past] is so important. I think that it's probably a greater struggle for trans folk, because we struggle more with our bodies.
Janet MockTrans women of color dangerously fall in between the cracks of racial justice, feminist and LGbt movements.
Janet MockFemininity in general is seen as frivolous. People often say feminine people are doing โthe mostโ, meaning that to don a dress, heels, lipstick, and big hair is artifice, fake, and a distraction. But I knew even as a teenager that my femininity was more than just adornments; they were extensions of me, enabling me to express myself and my identity. My body, my clothes, and my makeup are on purpose, just as I am on purpose.
Janet Mock