There's a socialist bias to the consensus of the literary world: a '30s mentality that says factory workers are more worthy of our attention.
Great minds sink alike, right?
Eat, drink and remarry is my motto.
The only sensible approach is not to take it too seriously. What counts is the writing.
Something changed. Somewhere along the line you stopped accelerating.
You keep thinking that with practice you will eventually get the knack of enjoying superficial encounters, that you will stop looking for the universal solvent, stop grieving. You will learn to compound happiness out of small increments of mindless pleasure.