There's so little wonder left in the world because we've seen everything one way or another'.

I know our feelings can be so unbearable that we employ ingenious strategies – unconscious strategies – to keep those feelings away. We do a feelings-swap, where we avoid feeling sad or lonely or afraid or inadequate, and feel angry instead. It can work the other way, too – sometimes you do need to feel angry, not inadequate; sometimes you do need to feel love and acceptance, and not the tragic drama of your life. It takes courage to feel the feeling – and not trade it on the feelings-exchange, or even transfer it altogether to another person.

To tell someone not to be emotional is to tell them to be dead.

What you risk reveals what you value.

You were in my arms for the first time, and you said my name, 'Tristan.' I answered you: 'Isolde.' Isolde. The world became a word.

I hate the word lesbian; it tells you nothing; its only purpose is to inflame.

What is more humiliating than finding the object of your love unworthy?