There are times when it will go so wrong that you will barely be alive, and times when you realise that being barely alive, on your own terms, is better than living a bloated half-life on someone else's terms.

When I fell in love it was as though I looked into a mirror for the first time and saw myself.

I had relationships with men as well as women. I wasn't choosing; I didn't think I had to.

Journalism encourages haste ... and haste is the enemy of art.

When I say 'I will be true to you' I am drawing a quiet space beyond the reach of other desires.

We are told not to privilege one story above another. All the stories must be told. Well, maybe that's true, maybe all stories are worth hearing, but not all stories are worth telling.

How many of us want any of us to see us as we really are?