The thought is not the thing.
And for this you must have quiet and solitude. But society does not allow you to have them. You must be with people, outwardly active at all costs. If you are alone you are considered antisocial or peculiar, or you are afraid of your own loneliness.
A mind that is afraid withers away; it cannot function properly.
So through identification you have pleasure and pain.
Fear is nonacceptance of what is.
Only the free mind knows what Love is.