My suggestion would be to walk away from the 90% who don't and join the 10% who do.
If you don't change your approach than you will never change your results!
Only by giving are you able to receive more than you already have.
Life is a unique combination of "want to" and "how to" and we need to give equal attention to both.
How long should you try? Until.
What is easy to do is also easy not to do.