Many of my books come from what if questions that I can't answer, things that I'm worried about as either a woman, a wife, a mom, an American.

There is no cosmic scale on which you can weigh your actions; you learn too late what choices ruin the fragile balance.

I never said I do not remember, my grandmother corrects. I said I prefer to forget.

Gay rights is not something most of us think about - because most of us happen to have been born straight.

The reason I am still sitting at Josef's kitchen table is the same reason traffic slows after a car wreck- you want to see the damage; you can't let yourself pass without that mental snapshot. We are drawn to horror even as we recoil from it.

A photo says, you were happy, and I wanted to catch that. A photo says, you were so important to me that I put down everything else to come watch.

sometimes words are not big enough to contain all the feelings you are trying to pour into them.