But that's what love is, isn't it? When it hurts you more to see someone suffer than it does to take the pain away?

You know it's never fifty-fifty in a marriage. It's always seventy-thirty, or sixty-forty. Someone falls in love first. Someone puts someone else up on a pedestal. Someone works very hard to keep things rolling smoothly; someone else sails along for the ride.

The answer is that there is no good answer. So as parents, as doctors, as judges, and as a society, we fumble through and make decisions that allow us to sleep at night--because morals are more important than ethics, and love is more important than law.

if you tell yourself you feel fine, you will.

Sometimes, all it takes to become human again is someone who can see you that way, no matter how you present on the surface.

If you had grown up with me, this is one of the things I would have tried to teach you: Marry a man who loves you more than you love him. Because I have both now, and when it is the other way around, there is no spell in the world that can even out the balance.

Asking me to describe my son is like asking me to hold the ocean in a paper cup