To grow yourself, you must know yourself.

When I was 17, I made the decision to have a good attitude. I was a junior in high school; the coach said I was going to be the captain of my basketball team. I thought – that surprised me because I wasn’t the best player. John Thomas was better than me, and I was probably second or third best player. And I kept thinking, “Why am I going to be the captain?” I think everybody else was thinking that too. And the coach then answered, “The reason John is going to be the captain is he has the best attitude on the team. He encourages others, he believes we can win, he never gives up.”

Successful leaders have the courage to take action while others hesitate.

Most people would rather change their circumstances to improve their lives when instead they need to change themselves to improve their circumstances. They put in just enough effort to distance themselves from their problems without ever trying to go after the root, which can often be found in themselves. Because they don't try to change the source of their problems, their problems keep coming back at them.

If you want to attract people, you need to be like people you enjoy being with.

You see, when our attitudes outdistance our abilities, even the impossible becomes possible.

When a leader is upbeat in the face of discouraging circumstances, others admire that quality and want to be like her.