A successful person never loses...they either win or learn!
You don't have pressure on yourself to have to go nuts.
For our children, you want them to build their own self-esteem and their own self-confidence. For your own child. You don't want it to come from somebody else because, if it does, that same person can take it away. You want them to learn the grind.
If my team won a national title and no one got drafted, I'd be disappointed.
Everything all of us do is stolen from somebody.
You do things other people cannot do, so just stay in the moment as you improve the other areas.