I have to be honest in asking myself: Do I really want to know and do God's will? Or is it rather that I want God to do my will? Do I go to God with the assurance that I want only to know and do his will? Or do I rather first make my own plans and then insist that God make my dreams come true?

We must be trying to learn who we really are rather than trying to tell ourselves who we should be.

Our lives are shaped by those who love us

More than 90 percent of all the prisoners in our American prisons have been abused as children.

There is no fixed, true and real person inside of you or me, precisely because being a person necessarily implies becoming a person, being in process.

It is essential that our love be liberating, not possessive. We must at all times give those we love the freedom to be themselves. Love affirms the other as other. It does not possess and manipulate another as mine.

Pain is a teacher from whom we can learn much.