People are more what they hide than what they show.
Falling in love is not a choice. To stay in love is.
You can learn great things from your mistakes when you aren't busy denying them. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion; today is special.
Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.
Until you can see, and admit, that YOU are the problem... You will be unable to realize that YOU must be the solution.