80% of the people who come into a Christ-following relationship is because a friend, co-worker, family member or neighbor invited them to church.
The #1 reasons are unsuccessful is their inability to lead themselves.
Vision sees what could be.
Authority leads through position. Influence builds others out of relationship.
If a preacher tells you how God says you are, I don't see how you can say that's bad preaching.
You must emulate the truth you exhort.