So who is better off, those who share love long enough to see which parts inevitably fade or those who lose their love when it is still pristine? I think each is lonely in a different place, though if you lose your love while it is still perfect you at least have a clear explanation for your grief, while if it gradually crumbles in your hands you do not.
Jonathan HullMaybe other people are like mirrors that we see ourselves in; versions of ourselves that vary dramatically depending on the particular cut of glass.
Jonathan HullI've known people whose faces rested naturally in a smile and I'm certain their lives were much different because of that.
Jonathan HullWhy does the longing for love have to be so acute, like a desperate thirst? Is it because love is wanting to be saved and we can never really be saved? Maybe love is really born of our fears. Love is the heartโs desire for a painkiller; a tearful plea for a great big epidural. Yes thatโs it: love is the only anesthesia that really works. And so people with broken hearts are really those who are just coming to, and if youโve ever seen someone come out of general anesthesia, you know that it looks a lot like the beginnings of a broken heart.
Jonathan HullIf love doesnโt triumph, it ought to. For love is the one thing we have that feels more powerful than even death; the only respite from lifeโs wretched absurdity. The magic of love is not that it contains all the answers, itโs that it eliminates the need for so many pressing questions. For love makes us feel like gods--and thatโs what weโre really after, isnโt it?
Jonathan Hull