It's important to write like your readers are brilliant.
I'm a semi-failed writer, but I'm a capital-F Failed musician.
I always wished to be a better planner. It seems more elegant, while my trial and error process is more akin to someone scratching an awful case of poison oak.
In my life the right question is simply this: What can I do to be happy today?
Memoirs need confusion. It's the thing every human has in common. We are magnificently confused.
I never wanted/expected to write a memoir, but this life thing, it has a way of sideswiping our worlds, scaring us so thoroughly that our past lenses of contextualizing events don't work - they cease to matter.