If I told you about all the stories I don't tell, I would be violating the very boundaries I set for myself.

Before I had children I always wondered whether their births would be, for me, like the ultimate in gym class failures. And I discovered instead... that I'd finally found my sport.

I continued to protect him with my silence.

If I told you about all the stories I don't tell, I would be violating the very boundaries I set for myself.

Imagine if you succeeded in making the world perfect for your children what a shock the rest of life would be for them.

It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself.

I compromised my ability to tell my story, at the most basic level.