If written directions alone would suffice, libraries wouldn't need to have the rest of the universities attached.
Judith MartinFairness does not consist so much of everybody's doing the same thing, but of everybody's being willing to do something that others don't want to do.
Judith MartinYou don't want to look too chic at a Washington party or people will think you don't have a job worth losing.
Judith MartinThe rationale that etiquette should be eschewed because it fosters inequality does not ring true in a society that openly admits to a feverish interest in the comparative status-conveying qualities of sneakers. Manners are available to all, for free.
Judith MartinPerhaps the greatest rudenesses of our time come not from the callousness of strangers, but from the solicitousness of intimates who believe that their frank criticisms are always welcome, and who feel free to "be themselves" with those they love, which turns out to mean being their worst selves, while saving their best behavior for strangers.
Judith Martin