Our early lessons in love and our developmental history shape the expectations we bring into marriage.
Judith ViorstThere is a time to separate from our mother. But unless we are ready to separate-unless we are ready to leave her and be left-anything is better than separation.
Judith ViorstWe cannot love others as others unless we possess suficient self-love, a love we learn from being loved in infancy.
Judith ViorstOur father presents an optional set of rhythms and responses for us to connect to. As a second home base, he makes it safer to roam. With him as an ally--a love--it is safer, too, to show that we're mad when we're mad at our mother. We can hate and not be abandoned, hate and still love.
Judith Viorst