No-fault guilt: This is when, instead of trying to figure out who's to blame, everyone pays.

Our daily existence requires both closeness and distance, the wholeness of self, the wholeness of intimacy.

I had it together on Sunday. By Monday at noon it had cracked. On Tuesday debris Was descending on me. And by Wednesday no part was intact. On Thursday I picked up some pieces. On Friday I picked up the rest. By Saturday, late, It was almost set straight. And on Sunday the world was impressed With how well I had got it together.

Suffering makes you deep. Travel makes you broad. In case I get my pick, I'd rather travel.

the lives we lead are determined, for better and worse, by our loss experiences.

You end up as you deserve. In old age you must put up with the face, the friends, the health, and the children you have earned.

Our father presents an optional set of rhythms and responses for us to connect to. As a second home base, he makes it safer to roam. With him as an ally--a love--it is safer, too, to show that we're mad when we're mad at our mother. We can hate and not be abandoned, hate and still love.