Start with the notion that yours is the sole responsibility unless there's powerful evidence to the contrary
Julian BarnesThe next day, when I was sober, I thought again about the three of us, and about time's many paradoxes. For instance: that when we are young and sensitive, we are also at our most hurtful; whereas when the blood begins to slow, when we feel less sharply, when we are more armoured and have learnt how to bear hurt, we tread more carefully.
Julian BarnesIn 1980, I published my first novel, in the usual swirl of unjustified hope and justified anxiety.
Julian Barnes