You would think, wouldnโt you, that if you were the child of a happy marriage, then you ought to have a better than average marriage yourself โ either through some genetic inheritance or because youโd learnt from example? But it doesnโt seem to work like that. So perhaps you need the opposite example โ to see mistakes in order not to make them yourself. Except this would mean that the best way for parents to ensure their children have happy marriages would be to have unhappy ones themselves. So whatโs the answer?
Julian BarnesA pier is a disappointed bridge; yet stare at it for long enough and you can dream it to the other side of the Channel.
Julian BarnesPerhaps the world progresses not by maturing, but by being in a permanent state of adolescence, of thrilled discovery.
Julian BarnesIf you remember your past too well you start blaming your present for it. Look what they did to me, that's what caused me to be like this, it's not my fault. Permit me to correct you: it probably is your fault. And kindly spare me the details.
Julian BarnesLife โฆ is a bit like reading. โฆ If all your responses to a book have already been duplicated and expanded upon by a professional critic, then what point is there to your reading? Only that itโs yours. Similarly, why live your life? Because itโs yours. But what if such an answer becomes less and less convincing?
Julian BarnesYou put together two people who have not been put together before. Sometimes it is like that first attempt to harness a hydrogen balloon to a fire balloon: do you prefer crash and burn, or burn and crash? But sometimes it works, and something new is made, and the world is changed. Then, at some point, sooner or later, for this reason or that, one of them is taken away. and what is taken away is greater than the sum of what was there. this may not be mathematically possible; but it is emotionally possible.
Julian Barnes