A couple's first task, it has always seemed to me, is to solve the problem of breakfast; if this can be worked out amicably, most other difficulties can too.
Julian BarnesMemory is identity....You are what you have done; what you have done is in your memory; what you remember defines who you are; when you forget your life you cease to be, even before your death.
Julian BarnesAnd that was all the part of it - the way you were obliged to live. You stifled a groan, you lied about your love, you deceived your legal wife, and all in the name of honour. That was the damned paradox of it - in order to behave well, you have to behave badly.
Julian BarnesWomen scheme when they are weak, they lie out of fear. Men scheme when they are strong, they lie out of arrogance.
Julian BarnesSometimes you find the panel, but it doesnโt open; sometimes it opens, and your gaze meets nothing but a mouse skeleton. But at least youโve looked. Thatโs the real distinction between people: not between those who have secrets and those who donโt, but between those who want to know everything and those who donโt. This search is a sign of love I maintain.
Julian BarnesLife โฆ is a bit like reading. โฆ If all your responses to a book have already been duplicated and expanded upon by a professional critic, then what point is there to your reading? Only that itโs yours. Similarly, why live your life? Because itโs yours. But what if such an answer becomes less and less convincing?
Julian Barnes