The first question we usually ask new parents is : โIs it a boy or a girl ?โ. There is a great answer to that one going around : โWe donโt know ; it hasnโt told us yet.โ Personally, I think no question containing โeither/orโ deserves a serious answer, and that includes the question of gender.
Kate BornsteinIt doesn't really matter what a person decides to do, or how radically a person plays with gender. What matters, I think, is how aware a person is of the options. How sad for a person to be missing out on some expression of identity, just for not knowing there are options
Kate BornsteinNo matter how your world falls apart-and honey, that's what happens: we all build ourselves a world, and then it falls apart-but no matter how that happens, you still have the kind heart you've had since you were a child, and that's all that really counts.
Kate BornsteinThe real problem devolves around class lines once again: it's the street hormones that folks without insurance, or folks who are too young for prescriptions without parental okay, use. Sometimes those hormones can be pretty rough.
Kate BornsteinThis Western culture of ours tends to sacrifice the full range of experience to a lower common denominator that's acceptable to more people; we end up with McDonald's instead of real food, Holiday Inns instead of homes, and USA Today instead of news and cultural analysis. And we do that with the rest of our lives.
Kate Bornstein