I know I'm not a man-about that much I'm very clear, and I've come to the conclusion that I'm probably not a woman either, at least not according to a lot of people's rules on this sort of thing. The trouble is, we're living in a world that insists we be one or the other-a world that doesn't bother to tell us exactly what one or the other is.
Kate BornsteinThe first question we usually ask new parents is : โIs it a boy or a girl ?โ. There is a great answer to that one going around : โWe donโt know ; it hasnโt told us yet.โ Personally, I think no question containing โeither/orโ deserves a serious answer, and that includes the question of gender.
Kate BornsteinNo matter how your world falls apart-and honey, that's what happens: we all build ourselves a world, and then it falls apart-but no matter how that happens, you still have the kind heart you've had since you were a child, and that's all that really counts.
Kate BornsteinI was a lonely, frightened little fat kid who felt there was something deeply wrong with me because I didn't feel like I was the gender I'd been assigned. I felt there was something wrong with me, something sick and twisted inside me, something very very bad about me. And everything I read backed that up.
Kate Bornstein