But insight doesn't necessarily produce self-control. Sometimes you just see your destructiveness more clearly.
Keith AblowMost children would rather preserve the fantasy of a loving connection with their fathers and mothers, at all costs, even if it costs them their self-esteem. When you're three or seven years old, it's less frightening to think of yourself as an unlovable, disappointing screwup than to recognize the fact that you're living with a monster.
Keith Ablow