The problem is that this speeded-up life and stress in America causes us to cut off our feelings, so we are out of touch with our reality.
I was taught that pain is bad.
Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you.
We religious controllers control in the name of Jesus and it is really painful to people
We can't be intimate because we can't share feelings that we don't have
A spiritual person is also in touch with his or her own reality, feelings and thoughts, and the reality of the people around him or her, not projecting on them.