I'm all for guys being butch and guys being men. I identify with that and appreciate that. But if I'm going to stab my gay brother in the back who isn't butch and who maybe acts a little bit more effeminate, what good is that?

Everyone's hip to the fact that we all do things to accentuate our looks - and it's much more accepted.

It's not being marketed as a gay show by a gay person. It's just Ellen DeGeneres.

The externals are important but I'm not interested in superficiality.

I've tried to take the opportunity to be as positive a person as I can be, as positive role model as I can be.

I just don't know that shame and fear need to be our teachers; rather, compassion, understanding, and love should be our guides.

I'm all for guys being butch and guys being men. I identify with that and appreciate that. But if I'm going to stab my gay brother in the back who isn't butch and who maybe acts a little bit more effeminate, what good is that?