If there is a gay uniform, the differences are in how each man coordinates the details: the brand and cut of the jeans, the design of belts and boots, the haircut, the number and size of earrings.

Proclaiming a sexual preference is something that straight men never really have to bother with.

It was a pleasure to be a gay eyesore.

My gayness became quietly accepted and, shock of all shocks, life went on.

Sexuality is a private matter; some believe that broadcasting it destroys the very things that make it sacred.

I believed I was invincible.

Coming out involves varying degrees of difficulty that are affected by class, race, religion, and geography.