Softness triumphs over hardness, feebleness over strength. What is more malleable is always superior over that which is immoveable. This is the principle of controlling things by going along with them, of mastery through adaptation.

Stop thinking, and end your problems.

As for the "proper way:" it is the beginning of disorder.

The one who rules like the mother lasts long.

A journey of a thousand leagues begins beneath one's feet.

The wise leader settles for good work and then lets others have the floor.

The wise does not think that only he is right -thus he knows the truth.